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"How Does The Blessed Man Or Woman Apply The Proverbs To Help Within Their Families, And Within Their Family Relationships.”

                                                                                                                  

 03-13-2019    Part 1        

This afternoon we want to return back to the Book of Proverbs.

As some of you may know for some time we have been working our way through the Psalms and the Proverbs, going back-and-forth looking at certain chapters, and looking at certain verses.                         In fact, we have entitled this series, "Applying The Psalms And Proverbs For Daily Living."

For we are learning how that many of the Psalms & Proverbs can be extremely helpful to you and I in any situation or circumstance that we are facing, that we are dealing with, if applied.

And here in the Book of Proverbs chapter 10 thru chapter 31, there are several major themes that we are focusing upon.                                                                                   For example, we considered the topic of verbal communication.  Or, being more aware and cautious of the words that we would say to another person.

Also, we dealt with the topic of receive God's wisdom and understanding for overcoming, or dealing with anger, adversity, or aging.

So then, this afternoon we're going to begin to consider another major theme from the book of Proverbs.

And therefore, our newest topic from the Book of Proverbs will be called, "How Does The Blessed Man Or Woman Apply The Proverbs To Help Within Their Families, And Within Their Family Relationships.”

And our first subject that we will deal with when it comes to applying the Proverbs to help us within our families, and within our family relationships, is to know and to accept what the Bible says is our responsibility in raising up the next generation spiritually, emotionally, and socially.  Amen!

And whether you are a Christian parent or parents, a Christian grandparent, a Christian aunt or uncle, a Christian adult cousin, a Christian stepparent, a Christian foster parent, a Christian public school teacher, a Christian counselor, a Christian children social worker, a Pastor, or a Youth Pastor or a Sunday school teacher or volunteer.

We all should know and accept what the Bible says is our responsibility in raising up the next generation spiritually, emotionally, and socially.

Now, notice this well-known and very familiar verse from the Bible.                                    See Proverbs 22:6,                                                                                                             “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it!”

Question what do you know about this purpose what do you think you’re saying to us?

Next question is this, a promise?                                                                                            A prediction?                                                                                                                          A plan?                                                                                                                              Or, our purpose?                                                                                                                   Or, is there something more or something deeper?                                                      Or, is there something spiritually, emotionally, and socially that we need to consider?

But before we answer that question, let’s pursue with the help of the Bible a better understanding what God is saying to us about the next generation, from conception into their late teens, whether or not they are a part of our family!

But what is God saying to us about the next generation and how important and valuable they really are?

For example, see Psalms 139:                                                                                      Vs. 13.  For You formed my inward parts; You covered me in my mother's womb.        Vs. 14.  I will praise You, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Marvelous are Your works, and that my soul knows very well.

Next. The KJV says about Psalms 127: 3-5.                                                                 Vs. 3.  Behold, children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb is a reward.

Also, Psalm 127: 3 (The NASB bible version) says, behold, children are a gift of the LORD, the fruit of the womb is a reward.

Or, Psalm 127: 3 (The DBY bible version) says, Lo, children are an inheritance from Jehovah, and the fruit of the womb a reward.

Now, KJV continues to says here in Psalms 127:                                                         Vs. 4.  Like arrows in the hand of a warrior, so are the children of one’s youth.            Vs. 5.  Happy is the man who has his quiver full of them; They shall not be ashamed, but shall speak with their enemies in the gate.

See Mark 10:                                                                                                                         Vs. 13.  Then they brought little children to Him, that He might touch them; but the disciples rebuked those who brought them.                                                                   Vs. 14.  But when Jesus saw it, He was greatly displeased and said to them, "Let the little children come to Me, and do not forbid them; for of such is the kingdom of God.  Vs. 15.  Assuredly, I say to you, whoever does not receive the kingdom of God as a little child will by no means enter it.                                                   Vs. 16.  And He took them up in His arms, put His hands on them, and blessed them.

Now, in Deuteronomy 6, originally given unto the children of Israel in the Old Testament.  Yet, there are some very important principles that still applies to a faith community, or a local church, or to the body of Christ as a whole that we can you still use today!

See Deuteronomy 6:                                                                                                         Vs. 4.  “Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one!                                            Vs. 5.  You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength.       Vs. 6.  And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart.                   Vs. 7.  You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you lie down, and when you rise up.                                                          Vs. 8.  You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes.           Vs. 9.  You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.

Now, unto the adult females and whether you are a parent a grandparent, an aunt, an adult cousin, a stepparent, a foster parent.

II Timothy 1:                                                                                                                         Vs. 5.  when I call to remembrance the genuine faith that is in you, which dwelt first in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice, and I am persuaded is in you also.

And, II Timothy 3:                                                                                                               Vs. 15.  and that from childhood you have known the Holy Scriptures, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith which is in Christ Jesus.

Now, unto to the adult males, and whether you are a parent, a grandparent, an aunt, an adult cousin, a stepparent, a foster parent.

Ephesians 6:                                                                                                                        Vs. 4.  And you, fathers, do not provoke your children to wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.

Also, Colossians 3:                                                                                                                  Vs. 21.  Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.

Also, Malachi 4:                                                                                                                 Vs. 5.  Behold, I will send you Elijah the prophet before the coming of the great and dreadful day of the Lord.                                                                                                    Vs. 6.  And He will turn the hearts of the fathers to their children, and the hearts of the children to their fathers, lest I come and strike the earth with a curse

03-20-2019    Part 2      

Let’s return back to our newest topic from the Book Of Proverbs we are calling, "How Does The Blessed Man Or Woman Apply The Proverbs To Find Help Within Their Families And Within Their Family Relationships.”

And the first subject that we are dealing with is, “To Know And To Accept What The Bible Says Is Our Responsibility In Raising Up The Next Generation Spiritually, Morally, Emotionally, And Socially.” Amen!

And therefore, as Christian adults we should know and accept what the Bible says is our responsibility in raising up the next generation whether those within our own Homes.  Or, those who are a part of our families.                                                          Or, those who a part of our church families.                                                                   Or, those who a part of our neighborhoods or communities.

Again, we should know and accept what the Bible says is our responsibility in raising up the next generation.

Now, notice this well-known and very familiar verse from the Bible.

See Proverbs 22:6.  Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it!”

Question.  What do you know about this verse?                                                                  What do you think this verse is saying unto us as Christian adults?                                       Also, is this verse,                                                                                                                     A promise?                                                                                                                                 A prediction?                                                                                                                             A plan?                                                                                                                                    Or, our purpose?                                                                                                                  Or, could there be something more, or something deeper that we need to consider?

Because Proverbs 22:6 is probably the most quoted bible passage when it comes to childrearing, and yet ironically, it may be the most misinterpreted, misunderstood, and misapplied verse in all the Bible.

Listen, when Christians were asked what does Proverbs 22: 6 means and how would you interpret and apply it?

The majority came up with this interpretation and application.                                           “Teach your children to know and obey the Ten Commandments; teach them to pray at mealtime, bedtime, and for emergencies.  And be sure to feed them a steady diet of Bible verses to memorize.

Make sure your kids attend Sunday school and church regularly.  If possible, send them to Christian camp, Vacation Bible School.  If you can enroll them into a Christian private school and or college.

Do this early, because watch out teenage and early 20’s rebellion will come!

They will sow a lot of wild oats that will detour their spiritual life.  But when their fling is over, they’ll come back to God.   And you can count on it because this verse has God’s promise on it.

But in my opinion, there are a few major problems with this interpretation and application of Proverbs 22: 6.

First, nothing is mentioned about an intimate relationship between the child and the adult in their life in which the exchange of ideas and believes are better received.

Next, nothing is mentioned about the adult in the child’s life modeling and being an example for the child to follow when it comes to spiritual matters and biblical truths.

Also, there can be a false security or the farming out that others will be responsible and more effective in reaching the child in your life, whether it’s by Sunday School, regularly Church attendance. Christian camp, Vacation Bible School, or Christian private school and or college.

Lastly, each child is an individual when it comes to spiritual matters.  Some have accepted at an early age the Lord Jesus Christ into their lives.  Others have rebelled and then later in life returned.  But some never did return and chose instead to pursue their sinful lifestyle, or they have accepted another religious belief or spiritual philosophy, and unfortunately died.  Perhaps they cried out to the Lord before their passing, but maybe they did not!

Note: The Bible study group wanted to discuss and give their opinions about my opinion on this matter.  It was a insightful and helpful discussion.

Now notice again Proverbs 22: 6, Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it!

Question, is there something more, or something deeper here that we need to consider?

Yes, in fact a better way to understand and interpret Proverbs 22: 6, is to look up in an English and in Bible dictionary familiar un familiar words in vs. 6.

Next, read Proverbs 22: 6, from a different Bible translation than you normally use.

For example: The Christian Standard Bible says, “Start a youth out on his way; even when he grows old, he will not depart from it.”

The New International Version says, “Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old, they will not turn from it.”

However, the first two words in Most English Bibles, “Train Up’ needs to be understood from the original Hebrew and Aramaic languages.

Show you what I mean!

Actually, in Hebrew the words “Train Up” that is translated into most English bibles is just one word in the Hebrew language.

The Hebrew word ‘Hanakh’ has multiple meanings.                                                                 For example, to dedicate or to consecrate oneself for a task, a job, or a mission.

The Hebrew word Hanakh is used to dedicate a building, the tabernacle or the Temple.

In fact, an Arabic verb that is used here and is very close cousin to the Hebrew word Hanakh, which can mean to stimulate one to pursue what’s best for them.

At this point the interpretation gives a helpful metaphor of a midwife assisting the mother of a newborn, in helping the baby to know how to nurse from their mother.

The midwife, by dipping her finger into a small bowl of crushed dates in order to massage the palate and gums of a newborn to encouraged the baby’s sucking instinct so that nursing could begin as soon as possible.

In other words, the midwife stimulated the baby’s gums in order to encourage the kind of behavior that would benefit the child.

She wisely and deftly utilized the baby’s natural instinct to guide them toward what is best.

Listen, the best parental training is accomplished when we opt for inspiration instead of coercion.

We do this by discovering the child’s natural desires and unique abilities and by encouraging the behavior that will allow him or her to develop accordingly.

Now this is not to say that we merely allow children or young adults to do as they please, nor that we should avoid necessary discipline or guidance or training of them.

Because the last meaning of the Hebrew word, ‘Hanakh’ relates to the training of a wild horse.

And the uses of a horse’s bridle which subdues the horse for the purpose of directing its natural energies without breaking its spirit.

However, that the bridle is not a yoke to dominate the horse.

Horses want to run because God gave them a desire to fulfill their created purpose.  A wise, caring rider uses the bit and the reins to help the horse achieve its purpose safely and effectively.

So, let’s review again the words “Train Up” or the Hebrew word ‘Hanakh’.

The Hebrew word ‘Hanakh’ can mean, to dedicate or to consecrate oneself for a task, a job, or a mission.

Therefore, as a Christian adult I should be willing to dedicate and consecrate myself for the task of the raising up the next generation within my influence.

Next, train up or the Hebrew word ‘Hanakh’ can mean to stimulate one to pursue what’s best for them.

Remember the midwife metaphor or picture.                                                                    In other words, the midwife stimulated the baby’s gums in order to encourage the kind of behavior that would benefit the child.

She wisely and deftly utilized the baby’s natural instinct to guide them toward what is best.

Likewise, when we discover a child’s natural desires and unique abilities, then we can wisely encourage the behavior that will allow him or her to develop accordingly.

But remember, this is not to say that we merely allow children or young adults to do as they please, nor that we should avoid necessary discipline or guidance or training of them.

Lastly, “Train Up” or the Hebrew word 'Hanakh’, can relate to the training of a wild horse.

And the uses of a horse’s bridle which subdues the horse for the purpose of directing its natural energies without breaking its spirit.

Horses want to run because God gave them a desire to fulfill their created purpose.  A wise, caring rider uses the bit and the reins to help the horse achieve its purpose safely and effectively.

So likewise, as wise adults who care about the next generation in help them achieve their God giving purposes safely and effectively without breaking their spirit.

03-27-2019    Part 3      

Let’s return back to our newest topic from the Book of Proverbs we are calling, "How Does The Blessed Man Or Woman Apply The Proverbs To Find Help Within Their Families And Within Their Family Relationships.”

And the first subject that we are dealing with is, “To Know And To Accept What The Bible Says Is Our Responsibility In raising Up The Next Generation Spiritually, Morally, Emotionally, And Socially.” Amen!

And therefore, as Christian adults we should know and accept what the Bible says is our responsibility in raising up the next generation whether those within our own homes in which we have been given access and permission to influence or to give guidance.                                                                                                          Or, those who are a part of our families in which we have been given access and permission to influence or to give guidance.                                                                  Or, those who a part of our church families in which we have been given access and permission to influence or to give guidance.                                                                  Or, those who a part of our neighborhoods or communities in which we have been given access and permission to influence or to give guidance.

Again, we should know and accept what the Bible says is our responsibility in raising up the next generation.

Now see Proverbs 22:6.                                                                                                      Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it!”

Question, so what do you think this verse is saying unto us as Christian adults?       And could there be something more here than we realize?                                             Is there something deeper here that we need to consider?

And the answer is yes!  In fact, within the first two words in most English Bibles, the words “train up", is so very important for us to understand.

Remember, the Hebrew word ‘Hanakh’, this Hebrew word has several important meanings to help us.

For example, this Hebrew word can mean, to dedicate or to consecrate oneself for a task, a job, or a mission.

And therefore, as a Christian Adult I should be willing to dedicate and consecrate myself for the task of the raising up the next generation within my influence.

Next, train up or the Hebrew word ‘Hanakh’ can also mean, to stimulate one to pursue what’s best for them. 

Now remember the midwife metaphor or illustration.

In the times of the Old Testament the Midwife would help stimulate a newborn’s mouth in order for them to nurse from their mother.  The act of the midwife influenced the kind of behavior that would benefit the child.  Therefore, Midwife simply and wisely utilized the baby’s natural instincts to guide them toward what is best, receiving nourishment from their mother, so that they can grow and thrive.

So likewise, when we discover a child’s natural desires and unique abilities, and then we can wisely encourage the behavior that will allow him or her to develop accordingly.

But remember, this is not to say that we merely allow children or young adults to do as they please, nor, that we should avoid necessary discipline or guidance or training of them.

And lastly, train up or, the Hebrew word ‘Hanakh’, can mean, to train or bring into submission a wild horse so that it can be useful.

A person who trains and works with horses, they normally use a horse’s bridle and bit, which helps subdues the horse for the purpose of directing its natural energies without breaking its spirit.

Because horses want to run for God gave them a desire to fulfill that part of their created purpose.

A wise, caring rider uses the bit and the reins to help the horse achieve its purpose safely and effectively.

So likewise, as wise adults who care about the next generation in help them achieve their God giving purposes safely and effectively without breaking their spirit.

Now notice Proverbs 22:6, Train up a child.  Stop there!

We may assume because of the word ‘child’ that is used here it is referring to someone from a newborn to about five or six years of age.

But actually, the word ‘child’ that is used here can refer to a much broader range of age. It would include from a newborn all the way up to someone into their 20s.

Next, see Proverbs 22:6 again.  Because this next portion is the second most important part of the Proverb for a Christian adult to understand and to apply.      Notice Proverbs 22:6. Train up a child in the way he should go.  Stop there!          Notice it says, in the way he or she should go!                                                            And not in the way he or she wants to go!                                                                     Nor, in the way that I want them to go!                                                                        But, in the way he or she should go!  Wow.                                                                      But, what does this mean, and what does it look like?

Now there are other Bible translations that may give us a clue and some insight.

For example: The Darby Bible Translation says, Train up the child according to the tenor of his way.

The International Standard Version says, Train a child in the way appropriate for him. The Christian Standard Bible says, Start a youth out on his way.                                      The Youngs Literal Translation says, Give instruction to a youth about his way.

In fact, in Hebrew it says quite simply, “in accordance with his way.”   Now, the key here is to understand this Hebrew word that is translated into English by the word ‘way!’

The Hebrew word is ‘Derek’, or in English it is, ‘way.’   The Hebrew word ‘Derek’, can refer to a literal way, such as a path, or a road, or a course.

Like in Proverbs 3: 5&6.                                                                                                Vs. 5.  Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.                  Vs. 6.  In all thy ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct thy paths.

But also, the Hebrew word ‘Derek’, can also refer to the manner in which someone or something Acts.

Or, it can refer to something or someone’s characteristics that are distinct and that are set.

For example, in Proverbs 30: 18&19 says.                                                                      Vs. 18.  There are three things which are too wonderful for me, four which I do not understand:                     Vs. 19.  The way of an eagle in the sky.                                                                                 The way of a serpent on a rock.                                                                                          The way of a ship in the middle of the sea.                                                                          And the way of a man with a maid.

Did you notice in each one of these examples in Proverbs 30: 18&19, the term ‘way’ refers to the manner in which someone or something acts.  Or, it is referring to something or someone’s characteristics that are distinct and that are set.  In other words, according to verse 19 you can’t expect a serpent to act like an eagle.  Their characteristics are distinct and they are set very differently.  Nor, should you think that a ship in the middle of the sea will be like a man with a maid.  Again, their characteristics are distinct and they are set very differently.

Listen, we are to train up the next generation according to his or her characteristics, or manner, or tenor that are distinct and that are set for them.

For example, some will be artistic, others athletic.   And still others academic.  One may be strong-willed and another compliant.  One can be encouraged by rewards or recognition, while another couldn’t care less.

Listen, we receive each child from the hand of God, not as a lump of clay to be molded in whatever way we see fit, or what we would desire.

But each child as a unique, distinctive person with a destiny.  Each child's nature, faculties, and temperament are given unto them.  We are to honor God’s creation of this one-of-a-kind individual by adapting our training to his or her characteristic.  To fight it, is to fight against God’s creation.

Instead, study the next generation within your sphere of influence.

And, if you have been given access and permission to influence or to give guidance unto them, with God’s help, develop a close relationship with them.  Then help this person discover his or her road, or the path he or she was created to follow.

Remember the illustration we shared about a wild horse being trained overtime.

Ask God to help you make the most of this person’s natural tendencies, so that he or she can live in harmony with God’s design for them.

04-03-2019    Part 4      

"How Does The Blessed Man Or Woman Apply The Proverbs To Find Help Within Their Families And Within Their Family Relationships?”

And the first subject that we are dealing with is, “To Know And To Accept What The Bible Says Is Our Responsibility In Raising Up The Next Generation Spiritually, Morally, Emotionally, And Socially.” Amen!

And therefore, as Christian adults we should know and accept what the Bible says is our responsibility in raising up the next generation whether those within our own homes in which we have been given access and permission to influence or to give guidance.

Or, those who are a part of our families in which we have been given access and permission to influence or to give guidance.                                                                 Or, those who a part of our church families in which we have been given access and permission to influence or to give guidance.                                                                       Or, those who a part of our neighborhoods or communities in which we have been given access and permission to influence or to give guidance.

Again, we should know and accept what the Bible says is our responsibility in raising up the next generation.

Now notice Proverbs 22:6, Train up a child in the way he should go.  Stop there!

Do a review.

Now, the key here is to understand this Hebrew word that is translated into English by the word “way!”

The Hebrew word is ‘Derek’, or in English ‘way’.  The Hebrew word ‘way’ can refer to a literal way, such as a path, or a road, or a course.  Or, the Hebrew word ‘way’ can also refer to the manner in which someone or something acts.                                                     Or, it can refer to something or someone’s characteristics that are distinct and that are set.                   

A Good example is from Proverbs 30: 18&19 which says,                                                  Vs. 18. There are three things which are too wonderful for me, four which I do not understand:     Vs. 19. The way of an eagle in the sky.                                                                                  The way of a serpent on a rock.                                                                                              The way of a ship in the middle of the sea.                                                                           And the way of a man with a maid.

Notice in each one of these examples in Proverbs 30: 18&19, the term ‘way’ refer to the manner in which someone or something acts.                                                         Or, it is referring to something or someone’s characteristics that are distinct and that are set.

In other words, according to verse 19 you can’t expect a serpent to act like an eagle. their characteristics are distinct and, they are set very differently.

Nor, should you think that a ship in the middle of the sea will be like a man with a maid.                     Again, their characteristics are distinct and they are set very differently.

Here is the point, we are to train up the next generation according to his or her characteristics, or manner, or tenor that are distinct and that are set for them.

Listen, we receive each child from the hand of God, not as a lump of clay to be molded in whatever way we see fit or desire.

But each child as a unique, distinctive person with a destiny.  For each child has his or her natural tendencies whether Good or bad.  Certain characteristics that are distinct and that are set.

For example, the manner or, tenor of their actions.  Or, certain Interests, or, a temperament that were given unto them by God before they were born.

So then, we must spend time learning about this person within our sphere of influence. And if you have been given access and permission to Influence or to give guidance unto them, with God’s help, develop a close relationship with them.  Then help this person discover his or her road, or the path he or she was created to follow.

Remember the illustration we shared about a wild horse who is being trained overtime.            Be sure to ask God regularly to help you make the most of this opportunity that has been given unto you.

Now, see Proverbs 22:6                                                                                                Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. So, is this a guarantee?                                                                                                    Or, a definite promise?                                                                                                  Or, is this Proverb a reasonable prediction?                                                                 Or, a trajectory statement concerning one’s outcome for life?

Notice Proverbs 22:6  And when he or she is old, they will not depart from it!”  Two things to remember                          •And when he or she is old!                                                                                          •He or she will not depart from it!”

First, when he or she is “old,”                                                                                              Or, when he or she as they age.   Not just a set point in time, 12, 18, or 25.  But, throughout duration of time.   In other words, birthday after birthday.  And throughout all the seasons of one’s life.

Now lastly, the Proverb’s says, that he or she will not depart from it.    Again, is this a guarantee?                   Or, a definite promise?                                                                                                         Or, is this Proverb a reasonable prediction?                                                                   Or, a trajectory statement concerning one’s outcome for life?

By the way, the word ‘trajectory’ means, a path of an object through space, or the path of life that a person chooses.                                                                                            Our English word trajectory comes from the Latin, Trajectoria, which means "throw across."                The prefix tra- is short for trans-which means "across" (think transport and transit).   And the ‘ject’ that is in trajectory, comes from the Latin, Jacere, which means "throw" and is also the root of our English word jet.

So, once again Proverbs 22:6 says,  and when he or she is old, or, when he or she as they age. They will not depart from it!

Question what is “the it” that he or she will not depart from?                                                •Is it the training?                                                                                                          •Or, is it the way they should go?

Remember, the term “way” is referring to the manner in which someone or something acts.                        Or, it is referring to something or someone’s characteristics that are distinct and that are set.

Listen, each child has his or her natural tendencies whether good or bad.  Certain characteristics that are distinct and that are set.    For example, the manner or, tenor of their actions.  Or certain interests, or a temperament that were given unto them by God before they were born.

Therefore, here are some areas in which the next generation needs our help and our guidance.              1. Vocational.                                                                                                                      2. Ministerial or serving or giving back.                                                                             3. Practical.                                                                                                                      4. Emotional.                                                                                                                       5. Spiritual.

Explain Vocational.  Not just a job or a career goal.  But a pre-existing vocational aptitude which may include certain skills, gifts, talents, abilities they possess.

•Ministerial or serving or giving back.                                                                              

•Practical.                                                                                                                         On the positive side.  A natural leader, they think things out, not impulsive. They are good with money, a saver not a spender.                                                                      On the negative side. They are easy to get frustrated or distracted. They lose motivation when things don’t work out their way. They can be disrespectful. They at times, have no self-control. They are impatient. They feel at times entitled, or self-centered.

•Emotional.                                                                                                                          Easily anger or to get upset.                                                                                               Or, compassionate and caring.

•Spiritual.                                                                                                                           A real heart for God.                                                                                                         Interested in biblical and spiritual things.                                                                              Wants to pray.                                                                                                              Wants to go to church.                                                                                                       Wants to read their Bible.                                                                                                    Wants to worship God.                                                                                                          Wants a relationship with God.

Remember the word “train up” or the Hebrew word ‘Hanakh’. The Hebrew word Hanakh can mean, to dedicate or to consecrate oneself for a task, a job, or a mission. Therefore, as a Christian adult I should be willing to dedicate and consecrate myself for the task of the raising up the next generation within my influence.

Next, train up or the Hebrew word Hanakh can mean to stimulate one to pursue what’s best for them.  Remember the midwife metaphor or picture.  In other words, the midwife stimulated the baby’s gums in order to encourage the kind of behavior that would benefit the child.  She wisely and deftly utilized the baby’s natural instinct to guide them toward what is best.  Likewise, when we discover a child’s natural desires and unique abilities, then we can wisely encourage the behavior that will allow him or her to develop accordingly.

But remember, this is not to say that we merely allow children or young adults to do as they please, nor that we should avoid necessary discipline or guidance or training of them.

04-10-2019    Part 5    

"How Does The Blessed Man Or Woman Apply The Proverbs To Find Help Within Their Families And Within Their Family Relationships?”

Now we are continuing with our first subject from the Proverbs, which is knowing and accepting what the Bible says is our responsibility in raising up the next generation spiritually, morally, emotionally, and socially.” Amen!

Listen, in raising up the next generation either spiritually, morally, emotionally, or socially, we have been focusing on Proverbs 22: 6.

For this is our personal mandate as a Christian adult who has been given access and permission to influence, or to give guidance in raising up the next generation especially, emotionally and socially, which it appears that this part of Proverbs 22: 6 is making reference to when it says, “in the way he or she should go!”

However, in raising up the next generation spiritually, morally, emotionally, or socially, there is one major factor that we must consider, and that is at times the need for correction (reproof) and discipline!

Now notice Proverbs 29:17,                                                                                               Correct your son or daughter, and they will give you rest; Yes, they will give delight to your soul.

So, let’s begin to see what the Bible says about correction (reproof) and discipline concerning the next generation if we have been given access and permission to influence, or to give guidance unto them that is age-appropriate.

Now you have probably notice, because it seems that our current culture and society is very confused and uncertain about correction (reproof) and discipline for the next generation whatever their age.

Question, so what do you think are some of the reasons why this is?

Next question as a committed follower of Jesus Christ, one who is filled with the Holy Spirit.  And one who knows and studies the Bible, and is living by the Word.  Are you and I confused and uncertain about correction (reproof) and discipline for the next generation whatever their age?

Therefore, I believe, we need to know more now than ever what does the Bible says about correction (reproof) and discipline concerning the next generation, if we have been given access and permission to Influence or to give guidance unto them that is age-appropriate.

 Now turn to Hebrews chapter 12.

Question, where does the idea of correction (reproof) and discipline come from?              Is it simply man-made? Or, is it from God Himself?

Now notice Hebrews 12: 5-11.                                                                                              Vs. 5.  And you have forgotten the exhortation which speaks to you as to sons: My son, do not despise the chastening of the Lord, nor be discouraged when you are rebuked by Him;                                          Vs. 6.  For whom the Lord loves He chastens, and scourges every son whom He receives.                              Vs. 7.  If you endure chastening, God deals with you as with sons; for what son is there whom a father does not chasten?                                                                                      Vs. 8.  But if you are without chastening, of which all have become partakers, then you are illegitimate and not sons.                                                                                          Vs. 9.  Furthermore, we have had human fathers who corrected us, and we paid them respect.  Shall we not much more readily be in subjection to the Father of spirits and live?                                                               Vs. 10.  For they indeed for a few days chastened us as seemed best to them, but He for our profit, that we may be partakers of His holiness.                                                      Vs. 11.  Now no chastening seems to be joyful for the present, but painful; nevertheless, afterward it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.

Now here are some helpful guidelines to consider when it comes to Biblical correction (reproof) and discipline of the next generation if we have been given access and permission to influence or to give guidance unto them that is age-appropriate.

Note: We will discuss each one in detail one by one over time.

For example the first one, praying daily for God‘s Wisdom, His guidance, His strength, His patience, and His understanding for yourself, and for the next generation

Next, begin early in establishing your loving authority and leadership with the next generation whom you have been given access and permission to influence or to give guidance unto them that is age-appropriate. Next, let your discipline be instructive and caring.                                                               Next, define boundaries before they are enforced.                                                                Next, then enforce the boundaries when they are violated, there needs to be consequences, and you need to be consistent in these times.                                             Next, discipline in private. Next, discipline showing dignity unto the one who is receiving the correction.                            Next, use age-appropriate discipline, and individualize your discipline.  Don’t assume what’s good for one is good for the other.

Lastly, in your discipline be properly motivated, and also be in control of yourself.

Now back to the first one! “Praying daily for God‘s wisdom,                                               His guidance,                                                                                                                         His strength,                                                                                                                           His patience,                                                                                                                              And His understanding                                                                                                                      For yourself, and for the next generation.”

See I Thessalonians 5: 16-18.  For it has some important principles for an adult who has been given access and permission to influence or to give guidance unto the next generation.                Notice vs. 16.  Rejoice always!                                                                                      Vs. 17.  Pray without ceasing.                                                                                       Vs. 18.  In everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.

So, notice again vs 16.  Rejoice always!                                                                          In other words, let the praises of the Lord for what He has done!  And for what He will do, keep you and I motivated, focused, and depended upon Him concerning the next generation.

Next vs. 17.  Pray without ceasing.                                                                                  Don’t stop praying no matter what it looks, or feels like, or seems like, or it be like!                                         Stay before the Lord in prayer and supplication.                                                           Intercede regularly!                                                                                                           And asked for God’s divine intervention, and His Grace and Mercy to be upon the next generation.

And finally, vs. 18 says, In everything give thanks; For this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.    In either positive or negative circumstances, situations, challenges, struggles, or disappointments concerning the next generation, give thanks; For this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.

Good Friday  04-19-2019

On this special day, during this special season there are those who will gather for various reasons, and a lot of it is based on their denominational background, and not always based on a good biblical understanding of the significance of this day!

In fact, a lot of Christians and non-Christians alike will say, “Why Is It Called Good Friday?  Because, if we consider early historical accounts, most would agree that what happened in the day of Christ’s death, how can you call it good!

Also some would say, “Should We Recognize And Commemorate This Day, By Having Or Attending A Good Friday Service?”

In fact, here are a few of the reasons why they don’t attend or participate.                             •Its historically a Catholic Church tradition from the past, and I’m not Catholic!       •During the times of the New Testament in Israel, the days of the week we’re not given names like we have today.  And therefore, we don’t know what day Jesus was crucified and died on!                                   •I’d rather focus on that which is positive, on the resurrection of Christ, and not the death of Christ!              So then, with God’s help, I would like to begin a new series, and once a year, on this special day

On “Good Friday,” over a period of time, I would like God to direct you and convince you to know what this day should mean to you or not!

Also, with God’s help, I would like us to know a little bit more about what else happened on the day that Jesus was crucified and died, and not just the seven last words of Christ from the cross, as important as that is to all of us!

And therefore, our new series will be called, “Lessons From the First Good Friday!”

Because truly I believe there are many important lessons that can be learned and practiced and apply to our lives today, even though they happened along time ago!

So, over a period of time we will examine the situation and circumstances from sun up to sundown, and what really happened on that day.

Also, will consider certain people and Individuals who were involved directly or Indirectly.  Knowingly and unknowingly, willingly and unwillingly.

We will consider also the cruelty and humiliation of Jesus Christ throughout that day.

But most importantly, we will try to understand the purpose and plan of God that was still at work on a day like that!

So then, let’s begin with this important concern and question, is it true that during the times of the New Testament in Israel, the days of the week we’re not given names like we have today.  And therefore, we don’t know what day Jesus was crucified and died on?

Notice Mark 15:                                                                                                                      Vs. 1.  Immediately, in the morning, the Chief Priests held a consultation with the Elders and Scribes and the whole council; and they bound Jesus, led Him away, and delivered Him to Pilate.              Vs. 24.  And when they crucified Jesus, they divided His garments, casting lots for them to determine what every man should take.                                                                        Vs. 25.  Now it was the third hour, or 9 am, and the soldiers crucified Him.                                    Vs. 33.  Now when the sixth hour, or Noontime had come, there was darkness over the whole land until the ninth hour or 3 pm.

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Vs. 37.  And Jesus cried out with a loud voice, and breathed His last.                                 Vs. 42.  Now when evening or sundown had come, because it was the Preparation Day, that is the day before the Sabbath.                                                                        

Now see Luke 23:                                                                                                                       Vs. 52.  This man Joseph went to Pilate and asked for the body of Jesus.                           Vs. 53.  Then Joseph took it down, wrapped it in linen, and laid it in a tomb that was hewn out of the rock, where no one had ever lain before.                                            Vs. 54.  That day was (the preparation), and the Sabbath drew near.                                Vs. 55.  And the women who had come with Jesus from Galilee followed after, and they observed the tomb and how His body was laid.                                                                   Vs. 56.  Then they returned and prepared spices and fragrant oils.  And they rested on the Sabbath according to the Commandment.

Now see Exodus 20:                                                                                                               Vs. 8.  Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy.                                                               Vs. 9.  Six days you shall labor and do all your work,                                                            Vs. 10.  but the seventh day is the Sabbath of the Lord your God.  In it you shall do no work: you, nor your son, nor your daughter, nor your male servant, nor your female servant, nor your cattle, nor your stranger who is within your gates.                                  Vs. 11.  For in six days the Lord made the heavens and the earth, the sea, and all that is in them, and rested the seventh day.  Therefore, the Lord blessed the Sabbath day and hallowed it.

Now see Mark 16:                                                                                                                             Vs. 1.  Now when the Sabbath was past, Mary Magdalene, Mary the mother of James, and Salome bought spices, that they might come and anoint Him.                                        Vs. 2.  Very early in the morning, on the first day of the week, they came to the tomb when the sun had risen.

However, didn’t Jesus say somewhere, “that in three days and three nights, He would come back from the dead?”

Notice Matthew 12: 40.  For as Jonah was three days and three nights in the belly of the great fish, so will the Son of Man be three days and three nights in the heart of the earth.

But is this referring to a 72-hour period of time, 24hours + 24hours + 24hours = three days and three nights?

Because if that is true, then our Lord‘s resurrection had to occur after the third night, on the very next day or the fourth day, a Monday and not Sunday!

Then this would be a complete contradiction of what Jesus said, and what was said in other places of the New Testament as well!

For example, in Matthew 16:                                                                                         Vs. 21.  From that time Jesus began to show to His disciples that He must go to Jerusalem, and suffer many things from the elders and chief priests and scribes, and be killed, and be raised (the third day).

See Luke 13:                                                                                                                 Vs. 32.  And He said to them, Go tell that fox, behold, I cast out demons and perform cures today and tomorrow, and (the third day) I shall be perfected.

See I Corinthians 15:                                                                                                            Vs. 3.  For I delivered to you first of all that which I also received: that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures,                                                                                           Vs. 4.  and that He was buried, and that He rose again (the third day) according to the scriptures.

Now notice again Matthew 12: 40.  For (as or like) not identical to.   But (as or like), Jonah was three days and three nights in the belly of the great fish, so will the Son of Man be three days and three nights in the heart of the earth.

Listen, Matthew 12: 40 is not talking about a 72-hour period of time, but it was actually a Hebrew idiom, a figure of speech of that day, which pointed to the prophet’s dilemma and not the duration of his situation inside the fish.

Listen as to the Bible, Jesus was crucified, died, and was buried all on the same day. And if you were Jewish at that time, then you would know what the day of preparation, or the day before the Sabbath, or Saturday, as it is called today, then this would be known as the sixth day, or Friday as it is called today.  Also, this would be the first day of entombment of the body of Jesus, even though it was approaching the evening time or sundown.

Now, the second day of the entombment of the body of Jesus Christ was during the weekly Jewish Sabbath, or the seventh day, or Saturday as we know it today.  And This was the only full 24-hour period that happened.  Note: Matt.27: 62-66 & Matt.28:1.

However, on the first day of the week, or the third day, or Sunday as we know it today.  The bible says, “When the Sabbath had past, very early in the morning on the first day of the week.  The women found the tomb of Jesus empty and the body of Jesus was gone!”  Note: Matt.27: 1-7.

Question, So, why should we participate in a Good Friday service?                              Because Good Friday should be a day of Reflection and Appreciation because of the substitutional death of Jesus Christ for us.                                                                       Isaiah 53:                                                                                                                            Vs. 4.  Surely, He has borne our griefs and carried our sorrows; Yet we esteemed Him stricken, smitten by God, and afflicted.                                                                                   Vs. 5.  But He was wounded for our transgressions, He was bruised for our iniquities; The chastisement for our peace was upon Him, and by His stripes we are healed.

Why should we participate in a Good Friday service?                                    Because Good Friday should be a day of Thankfulness for what Christ accomplished!               I Peter 2:                                                                                                                                                      Vs. 24.  Who Himself bore our sins in His own body on the tree, that we, having died to sins, might live for righteousness by whose stripes you were healed.                             Vs. 25.  For you were like sheep going astray, but have now returned to the Shepherd and Overseer of your souls.

Why should we participate in a Good Friday service?                                                        Because Good Friday should be a day of Hope!                                                            Galatians 2:                                                                                                                       Vs. 20.  I have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me; and the life which I now live in the flesh I live by faith in the Son of God, who loved me and gave Himself for me.

04-24-2019    Part 6    

"How Does The Blessed Man Or Woman Apply The Proverbs To Find Help Within Their Families And Within Their Family Relationships?”

So, let us come back to our first subject matter in this series from the book of Proverbs, and that is “knowing and accepting what the Bible says is our responsibility in raising up the next generation spiritually, morally, emotionally, and socially.” Amen!

However, in raising up the next generation spiritually, morally, emotionally, or socially, there is one major factor that we must consider and that is, “At times there will be the need for correction, reproof, and discipline!”

Now, notice Proverbs 29:17,                                                                                              Correct your son or daughter, and they will give you rest; Yes, they will give delight to your soul.

Question, so what does the Bible say about correction reproof, and discipline concerning the next generation if we have been given access and permission to influence, or to give guidance unto them that is age-appropriate?

Well, here are some helpful guidelines to consider.

First, praying daily for God‘s wisdom, His guidance, His strength, His patience, and His understanding for yourself, and for the next generation.

And two weeks ago, we discussed this first one in detail.

Now turn to Ephesians 6.

Now this afternoon let’s consider another helpful guideline for correction reproof, and discipline concerning the next generation if we have been given access and permission to influence, or to give guidance unto them that is age-appropriate.

Listen, begin early in establishing your loving authority and leadership with the next generation whom you have been given access and permission to influence or to give guidance unto them that is age-appropriate.

Now, here in Ephesians 6: 1-4, even though these words are directed unto children of various ages, each child still needs an adult who can teach them why Ephesians 6: 1-4 is important, and how it is to be lived out!

Notice Ephesians 6:                                                                                                             Vs. 1.  Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.                                      Vs. 2.  Honor your father and mother, which is the first commandment with a promise: Why?          Vs. 3.  That it may be well with you, and you may live long on the earth.                             Vs. 4.  And you, fathers, or parents, do not provoke your children unto wrath, but bring them up in the training and admonition of the Lord.

Note: We took time to explain the basic principal in these several verses when it comes to parenting.

So again, even though these words are directed unto children of various ages, each child still needs an adult who van teach them why Ephesians 6: 1-4 is important, and how it is to be lived out!

Now turn to Hebrews 12:                                                                                                 Next, another helpful guideline for correction reproof, and discipline concerning the next generation if we have been given access and permission to influence, or to give guidance unto them that is age-appropriate is, “Let your discipline be instructive and caring.”

Always let your discipline be instructive or a teachable moment!

In other words, coming alongside of child or the young adult and explaining unto them in a calm and respectful matter. Yet caring enough to confront and to deal with attitudes, behaviors, or conduct.

Notice Hebrews 12:                                                                                                               Vs. 9.   Furthermore, we have had human fathers or parents who corrected us, and we gave them respect.  Shall we not much more readily be in subjection to the Father of spirits and live?             Vs. 10.  For our human fathers or parents indeed for a few days chastened us as seemed best to them, but He for our profit that we may be partakers of His holiness.

Note:  We took time to explain the basic principal in these two verses when it comes to parenting.

So again, always let your discipline be instructive or a teachable moment!  In other words, coming alongside of a child or the young adult and explaining unto them in a calm and respectful matter. Yet caring enough to confront and to deal with attitudes, behaviors, or conduct.

05-01-2019    Part 7   

"How Does The Blessed Man Or Woman Apply The Proverbs To Find Help Within Their Families And Within Their Family Relationships?”

So, let us come back to our first subject matter in this series from the book of Proverbs, and that is “knowing and accepting what the Bible says is our responsibility in raising up the next generation spiritually, morally, emotionally, and socially.” Amen!

However, in raising up the next generation spiritually, morally, emotionally, or socially, there is one major factor that we must consider and that Is, “at times there will be the need for correction, reproof, and discipline!”

Now notice Proverbs 29:17, Correct your son or daughter, and they will give you rest; Yes, they will give delight to your soul.

Question, so what does the Bible say about correction reproof, and discipline concerning the next generation if we have been given access and permission to influence, or to give guidance unto them that is age-appropriate?

And again, let’s continue with these helpful guidelines that can enhance and improve how we correct, or reprove, or discipline that person or persons in our lives, if we have been given access and permission to influence, or to give guidance unto them that is age-appropriate.

So then, our next helpful guideline is, begin early defining boundaries before they are enforced, with the person in your life whom you have been given access and permission to influence or to give guidance unto them that is age-appropriate.

Now a good example of defining boundaries before they are enforced, are the 10 commandments of God!

Because if you think about it, these commandments from God were actually boundaries, rules, or expectations, that were clearly defined before He enforced them with the Children of Israel.

Now notice Exodus 20:                                                                                                  Vs. 1.  And God spoke all these words, saying:                                                                Vs. 2.  I am the Lord your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of bondage.                                                                                                       Vs.*3.  Therefore, you shall have no other gods before Me.                                          Vs. 4.  Neither shell you make for yourself a carved image, or any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth;

Vs. 5.  Nor should you bow down to them nor serve them.  Because I, the LORD your God, am a jealous God, visiting the iniquity of the fathers on the children to the third and fourth generations of those who hate Me,                                                                  Vs. 6.  But showing mercy to thousands, to those who love Me and keep My commandments.       Vs. *7. You shall not take the name of the Lord your God in vain, for the Lord will not hold him guiltless who takes His name in vain.                                                                      Vs.*8.  Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy.                                                              Vs. 9.  Six days you shall labor and do all your work,                                                    Vs. 10.  But the seventh day is the Sabbath of the Lord your God. In it you shall do no work: you, nor your son, nor your daughter, nor your male servant, nor your female servant, nor your cattle, nor your stranger who is within your gates.                                  Vs. 11.  For in six days the Lord made the heavens and the earth, the sea, and all that is in them, and rested the seventh day. Therefore, the Lord blessed the Sabbath day and hallowed it.           Vs. *12. Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long upon the land which the Lord your God is giving you.                                                                                  Vs. *13. You shall not murder.                                                                                                 Vs. *14. You shall not commit adultery.                                                                                    *15. You shall not steal.                                                                                                    *16. You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.                                              *17. You shall not covet your neighbor's house; you shall not covet your neighbor's wife, nor his male servant, nor his female servant, nor his ox, nor his donkey, nor anything that is your neighbor's.

Note: Now, we took time to come up with some of our own boundaries, or rules, or expectations, that should be clearly defined. That are to be made known to everyone involved.  And, that are age-appropriate and understandable, before they are enforced.

So again, begin early defining boundaries before they are enforced, with the person in your life whom you have been given access and permission to influence or to give guidance unto them that is age-appropriate.

Now, our next helpful guideline is, when boundaries have been repeatedly and willfully disregarded and they have been clearly violated, with no remorse and no confession. Then there needs to be consequences, and we need to be consistent in those times with that person in whom you have been given access and permission to influence or to give guidance unto them that is age-appropriate.

Now see Deuteronomy 28:                                                                                                    Vs. 15.  But it shall come to pass, if you do not obey the voice of the Lord your God, to observe carefully all His commandments and His statutes which I command you today, that all these curses will come upon you and overtake you:

Vs. *16.  Cursed shall you be in the city, and cursed shall you be in the country.           Vs. 17.  Cursed shall be your basket and your kneading bowl.                                                Vs.  18. Cursed shall be the fruit of your body and the produce of your land, the increase of your cattle and the offspring of your flocks.                                                      Vs. *19.  Cursed shall you be when you come in, and cursed shall you be when you go out.            Vs. 20.  The Lord will send on you cursing, confusion, and rebuke in all that you set your hand to do, until you are destroyed and until you perish quickly, because of the wickedness of your doings in which you have forsaken Me.

Note: Take the time to explain the basic principal in these several verses when it comes to human parenting.

So again, when boundaries have been repeatedly and willfully disregarded and they have been clearly violated, with no remorse and no confession. Then there needs to be consequences, and we need to be consistent in those times with that person in whom you have been given access and permission to influence or to give guidance unto them that is age-appropriate.

Now, our next helpful guideline is, whenever possible discipline in-private.

Notice Matthew 18:15, Moreover if your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault between you and him alone.  If he hears you, you have gained your brother.

Note: Take the time to explain the basic principal in this verse when it comes to human parenting.

So again, whenever possible discipline in-private concerning that person in whom you have been given access and permission to influence or to give guidance unto them that is age-appropriate.

05-08-2019    Part 8  

“How Does The Blessed Man Or Woman Apply The Proverbs To Find Help Within Their Families And Within Their Family Relationships”?

So, let us come back to our first subject in this series from the Book of Proverbs, and that is *“knowing and accepting what the Bible says is our responsibility in raising up the next generation spiritually, morally, emotionally, and socially.” Amen!

However, in raising up the next generation spiritually, morally, emotionally, or socially, there is one major factor that we must consider and that Is, “at times there will be the need for correction, reproof, and discipline!”

Now notice Proverbs 29:17.  Correct your son or daughter, and they will give you rest; Yes, they will give delight to your soul.

Question, so what does the Bible say about correction, reproof, and discipline concerning the next generation, and what are some of the helpful guidelines that can enhance and improve how we correct, or reprove, or discipline that person or persons in our lives, if we have been given access and permission to influence, or to give guidance unto them that is age-appropriate?

So then, our next helpful guideline that can enhance and improve how we correct, or reprove or discipline that person or persons in our lives is, *always discipline showing dignity and mercy unto the one who is receiving your correction, or your reproof.

Notice Ephesians 4:29.  Let no corrupt words proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart Grace to the hearers.

Note: Take the time to explain the basic principal in this verse when it comes to parenting.            •No humiliating, embarrassing or shaming.                                                                          •No profanity or insulting, or hateful words.                                                                            •And never try to break the spirit of the person who you are disciplining.

So once again, always discipline showing dignity and mercy unto that person in whom you have been given access and permission to influence or to give guidance unto them that is age-appropriate who is receiving your correction, or your reproof.

Now our next helpful guideline that can enhance and improve how we correct, or reprove or discipline that person or persons in our lives is, *at all times use age-appropriate, individualize discipline.  Don’t assume what’s good for one is good for another!

Notice Proverbs 13:24 He who spares his rod hates his son or daughter, but the one who loves them disciplines him or her promptly.

Also, see Proverbs 29:15. The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.                                                                                           •No physical or mental abuse or treatment.                                                                   •No cruel, or unusual, or extreme punishments.

So again, at all times use age-appropriate, individualize discipline. But don’t assume what’s good for one is good for that person in whom you have been given access and permission to influence or to give guidance unto.

Now our last helpful guideline that can enhance and improve how we correct, or reprove or discipline that person or persons in our lives is, *Be sure that you are properly motivated, and in control of yourself before you discipline, or correct, or reprove that person in whom you have been given access and permission to influence or to give guidance unto them.

See Colossians 3:21.  Fathers, do not provoke your children, lest they become discouraged.

See James 1: 19&20.                                                                                                     Vs. 19.  So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath; Vs. 20.  for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God.

Note: Take the time to explain the basic principal in these few verses when it comes to human parenting.

Now in Luke 15:  The Lord Jesus tells a wonderful parable about a father who had two adult sons, in whom the father had to correct and reproof in different ways, for different reasons, because of his son’s behaviors, attitudes, and their conduct.

Notice the father’s wisdom utilizing one form of correction and reproof for one son (the younger son), reward, as a form of reproof and correction.

But another form of correction and reproof for the other son (the older son), rebuke, as a form of reproof and correction.

Now notice Luke 15:                                                                                                       Vs. 11.  Jesus is speaking, a certain man (a father) had two sons. Vs. 12.  And the younger of the two said unto his father, Father, give me the portion of goods inheritance that falls (or is gifted) unto me. *So, the father divided unto them, (both sons), his livelihood, or their inheritance.                                                                  Vs. 13.  And not many days after that, the younger son gathered all his belongings and he left home and journeyed to a far country. And there the younger son wasted all his possessions with or because of prodigal living, or irresponsible living.                         Vs. 20.  So the younger son arose and came to his father. *But when he was still a great way off, his father saw him and had compassion, and ran and fell on his neck and kissed him.

Notice vs. 21.  And the younger son said to his Father, I have sinned against Heaven and in your sight, and am no longer worthy to be called your son.                                    Vs. 22.  But the father said to his servants, Bring out the best robe and put it on him, and put a ring on his hand and sandals on his feet.                                                         Vs. 23.  And bring the fatted calf here and kill it, and let us eat and be merry!                  Vs. 24.  Because this my son was dead and is alive again; he was lost and is found. And they began to be merry.                                                                                          Vs. 25.  Now the oldest son was in the field. And as he came and drew near to the house, he heard music and dancing.                                                                                Vs. 26.  So, the older son called one of the servants and asked what these things meant.              Vs. 27.  And the servant said to the older brother, Your brother has come back and because your father has received him safe and sound, your father has killed the fatted calf.

Now notice carefully vs. 28, 29, &30, the oldest son was angry, blaming, demanding, insulting and disrespectful unto his father.                                                                            Vs. 28.  But the older son was angry and would not go into the house. *Therefore, his father came out and pleaded with his oldest son.                                                          Vs 29.  But, then the older son answered and said to his father, Look, these many years I have been serving you. I never transgressed your commandment at any time. Yet you never gave me a young goat, that I might make merry with my friends.                           Vs. 30.  But, as soon as this son of yours returns, who has devoured your inheritance with harlots, you killed the fatted calf for him!

Notice the Father’s wisdom utilizing a different form of correction and reproof for his oldest son.  Not a reward, but a rebuke, as another form of reproof and correction.

Notice vs. 31.  And the Father said to him, Son, you are always with me, and all that I have is yours.

Vs. 32.  It was right that we should make merry and be glad, for your brother was dead and is alive again, and was lost and is found.

Now, the information below is from a handout that was given out after our Bible study time was over.

“The spanking controversy should not be whether parents spank or not but how they spank. Because in some cases a single disapproving word can bring a sensitive child to tears, while a more spirited youngster might need stronger measures. Spankings should be done in private to spare children humiliation and without anger. It might be worthwhile to reiterate the fact that parental discipline should never injure the child. It is never necessary to bruise your children in order to spank them hard enough to make your point. Spanking should always be administered with love and never when the parent is in a fit of rage. That sort of discipline is indeed abusive, wrong, and detrimental to the child, because it shatters the environment of loving nurture and instruction that Ephesians 6:4 describes.

Spanking is by no means the only kind of discipline parents should administer. There are many other viable forms of punishing children that, on occasion, can be used in addition to the rod. If the child responds immediately to a verbal rebuke in a given situation, a spanking is probably not necessary. Other punishments, such as withdrawing privileges, can also be used as occasional alternatives to spanking if the situation warrants it.  Much of our parental discipline should be totally positive.  Parents can and should provide guidance for their children by rewarding them for positive behavior, as well as by punishing them for wrong behavior.  Both sides of the equation are important. Positive motivation is entirely legitimate and can often be an effective means of getting children to obey.  Notice, in fact, that the promise God Himself attached to the Fifth Commandment is a positive motivation. The commandment was reinforced with a promise, not a threat.  It is often appropriate to say to your child, if you do this, I will reward you in this way!  Balanced discipline involves both negative and positive reinforcements. In fact, we might sum up all discipline by saying it means giving the appropriate reward for the conduct.  When the conduct (including both attitudes and actions) is good, a positive reward is warranted. When the conduct is bad, a negative reward is in order. It's really that simple.”

05-16-2019  Part 9  

"How Does The Blessed Man Or Woman Apply The Proverbs To Find Help Within Their Families And Within Their Family Relationships?”

So, let us continue with our first subject in this series from the Book of Proverbs and that is, *knowing and accepting what the Bible says is our responsibility in raising up the next generation spiritually, morally, emotionally, and socially.” Amen!

Now this afternoon let’s begin to desire morality and integrity for themselves!

Now notice Proverbs 1: 10.  My son, if sinners entice you, do not consent.

Proverbs 25: 28.  Whoever has no rule over his own spirit, is like a city broken down and without walls.

Proverbs 20: 7. The just man or woman walketh in their integrity: their children are blessed after them.

Now ask the Bible Study group what is morality or morals?   And what is integrity?

First, morality or morals.

Listen, morality or morals are having and being committed to a set of standards, principles, rules, codes for conduct, and beliefs that were modeled, taught, and shared from another person and whom you trust.  In which you have personally embraced and accepted.  Which guides and assist you. That helps you to distinguish between right from wrong, good from bad, beneficial or non-beneficial. which enables you to have an inward fortitude and desire to select one over the other.  By which your conduct, behavior, and attitude will display self-control, self-restraint, scruples, an ethicalness, a high regard for others, and a healthy respect for yourself.

And by the way, morality and morals can be identified within four major categories in which we can choose from to follow.                                                                               •Secular/Nonreligious morality.                                                                                           •Cultural/Ethnic morality.                                                                                               •Personal/Self-imposed morality.                                                                                •Divine/Biblical morality.                                                                                                      

Now what is integrity?

Integrity means, having undivided values, or character, or convictions, which produces, honesty, truthfulness, transparency, that causes a person to be uncompromising, courageous, honorable.

Question, should we first take seriously the Bible’s admonition to us as adults, parents, etc. That both morality and Integrity is model by us so that the person or persons who are in our lives, that we have been given access and permission to influence, or to give guidance unto them that is age-appropriate, will be more effective?

A well-known Christian radio talk show host Dave Ramsey said, “I truly believe more is caught than taught that what your child or kids see you do, is a lot more powerful than what they hear you say”                                                                                            “Words can be strong, but actions are stronger.”                                                                 “Remember little eyes are watching you!”

See Romans 2:                                                                                                                  Vs. 21.  You, therefore, who teach another, do you not teach yourself?  You who preach that a man should not steal, do you steal?                                                        Vs. 22.  You who say, "Do not commit adultery," do you commit adultery?  You who abhor idols, do you rob temples?                                                                                   Vs. 23.  You who make your boast in the law, do you dishonor God through breaking the law?

See I John 1:                                                                                                                       Vs. 6. If we say that we have fellowship with Him, and walk in darkness, we lie and do not practice the truth.                                                                                                          Vs. 7.  But if we walk in the light as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus Christ His Son cleanses us from all sin.                     Vs. 8.  If we say that we have no sin, we deceive ourselves, and the truth is not in us.            Vs. 9.  If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.                                                                                  Vs. 10.  If we say that we have not sinned, we make Him a liar, and His word is not in us.

See Philippians 4: 9.                                                                                                               The things which you learned and received and heard and saw in me, these do, and The God of Peace will be with you.

Remember the meaning for morality or morals are having and being committed to a set of standards, principles, rules, codes for conduct, and beliefs that were modeled, taught, and shared from another person and whom you trust.  In which you have personally embraced and accepted.  Which guides and assist you.  That helps you to distinguish between right from wrong, good from bad, beneficial or non-beneficial.  which enables you to have an Inward fortitude and desire to select one over the other.  By which your conduct, behavior, and attitude will display self-control, self-restraint, scruples, an ethicalness,

A high regard for others, and a healthy respect for yourself.

Again, see Proverbs 1:                                                                                                     Vs. 10. My son, if sinners entice you, do not consent.                                                      Vs. 11.  If they say, come with us, Let us lie in wait to shed blood; Let us lurk secretly for the innocent without cause;                                                                                          Vs. 12.  Let us swallow them alive like Sheol, and whole, like those who go down to the Pit;           Vs. 13.  We shall find all kinds of precious possessions, We shall fill our houses with spoil;               Vs. 14.  Cast in your lot among us, let us all have one purse.                                          Vs. 15.  My son, do not walk in the way with them, keep your foot from their path;            Vs. 16.  For their feet run to evil, and they make haste to shed blood.                          Vs. 17.  Surely, in vain the net is spread in the sight of any bird;                                        Vs. 18.  But they lie in wait for their own blood, they lurk secretly for their own lives.

05-22-2019    Part 10    

"How Does The Blessed Man Or Woman Apply The Proverbs To Find Help Within Their Families And Within Their Family Relationships?”

So, let us continue with our first subject in this series from the Book of Proverbs and that is, knowing and accepting what the Bible says is our responsibility in raising up the next generation spiritually, morally, emotionally, and socially. Amen!

Now this afternoon let’s continue to understand for ourselves how important it is in raising up the next generation to know and to desire morality and integrity for themselves!

Now notice Proverbs 4:                                                                                                    Vs. 14.  Do not enter the path of the wicked, and do not walk in the way of evil.         Vs. 15.  Avoid it, do not travel on it; Turn away from it and pass on.                               Vs. 16.  For they do not sleep unless they have done evil; And their sleep is taken away unless they make someone fall.                                                                              Vs. 17.  For they eat the bread of wickedness, and drink the wine of violence.               Vs. 19.  The way of the wicked is like darkness; They do not know what makes them stumble.

Now turn to Ephesians 4.                                                                                    

Now remember last Wednesday, we expected the challenge as Christian adults that we must model morality and integrity before the next generation so that they may follow.

Now this afternoon, let’s continue to understand for ourselves how important it is in raising up the next generation, to know and to desire morality & integrity for themselves if they are a committed follower of Christ, and if they are dependent upon the Holy Spirit’s help to live at this level!

Now notice Ephesians 4:                                                                                                  Vs. 25.  Therefore, putting away lying, let each one of you speak truth with his neighbor, for we are members of one another.                                                             Vs. 26.  Be angry, and do not sin: do not let the sun go down on your wrath,                    Vs. 27.  nor give place to the devil.                                                                               Vs. 31.  Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice.                                                                                                        Vs. 32.  Instead, be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God in Christ forgave you.                                                                                             Vs. 28.  Let him who stole steal no longer, but rather let him labor, working with his hands what is good, that he may have something to give him who has need. Vs. 29.  Let no corrupt words proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart Grace to the hearers.

Turn to Proverbs 6.

Now again, in raising up the next generation it is important for you and I to influence them to know and to desire morality and integrity for themselves, if they are a committed follower of Christ, and if they are dependent upon the Holy Spirit’s help to live at this level!

Now notice Proverbs 6:                                                                                                 Vs. 16. These six things the Lord hates, yes, seven are an abomination to Him:          Vs. 17.  A proud look, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood,                           Vs. 18.  A heart that devises wicked plans, feet that are swift in running to evil,             Vs. 19.  A false witness who speaks lies, and one who sows discord among brethren.  Vs. 20.  My son, keep your father's command, and do not forsake the law of your mother.

Turn to Proverbs 5.

Once again, in raising up the next generation it is important for you and I to influence them to know and to desire morality and integrity for themselves, if they are a committed follower of Christ, and if they are dependent upon the Holy Spirit’s help to live at this level!

Now notice Proverbs 5:                                                                                                          Vs. 3.  For the lips of an immoral woman drip honey, and her mouth is smoother than oil;            Vs. 4.  But in the end, she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword.                Vs. 5.  Her feet go down to death, her steps lay hold of hell.                                             Vs. 6.  Lest you ponder her path of life her ways are unstable; You do not know them.      Vs. 7.  Therefore, hear me now, my children, and do not depart from the words of my mouth.         Vs. 8.  Remove your way far from her, and do not go near the door of her house,

Also, see Proverbs 6:                                                                                                    Vs. 24.  To keep you from the evil woman, From the flattering tongue of a seductress.  Vs. 25.   Do not lust after her beauty in your heart, nor let her allure you with her eyelids.       Vs. 26.   For by means of a *harlot a man is reduced to a crust of bread; And an *adulteress will prey upon his precious life.                                                                      Vs. 27.   Can a man take fire to his bosom, and his clothes not be burned?                 Vs. 28.   Can one walk on hot coals, and his feet not be seared?                                 Vs. 29.   So, is he who goes in to his neighbor's wife; Whoever touches her shall not be innocent. Vs. 32.  Whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding; He who does so destroys his own soul.

Now notice Genesis 39:                                                                                                              Vs. 7.  And it came to pass after these things that his master's wife cast longing eyes on Joseph, and she said, Lie with me.                                                                          Vs. 8.  But he refused and said to his master's wife, Look, my master does not know what is with me in the house, and he has committed all that he has to my hand.         Vs. 9.  There is no one greater in this house than I, nor has he kept back anything from me but you, because you are his wife.  How then can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God?             Vs. 10.  So it was, as she spoke to Joseph day by day, that he did not heed her, to lie with her or to be with her.                                                                                                 Vs. 11.  But it happened about this time, when Joseph went into the house to do his work, and none of the men of the house was inside,                                                     Vs. 12.  that she caught him by his garment, saying, Lie with me. But he left his garment in her hand, and fled and ran outside.

 

 

 

 

 

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