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"How Does The Blessed Man Or Woman Apply The Proverbs To Help Within Their Families, And Within Their Family Relationships.”                                                                            

 05-22-2019    Part 10    

"How Does The Blessed Man Or Woman Apply The Proverbs To Find Help Within Their Families And Within Their Family Relationships?”

So, let us continue with our first subject in this series from the Book of Proverbs and that is, knowing and accepting what the Bible says is our responsibility in raising up the next generation spiritually, morally, emotionally, and socially. Amen!

Now this afternoon let’s continue to understand for ourselves how important it is in raising up the next generation to know and to desire morality and integrity for themselves!

Now notice Proverbs 4:                                                                                                    Vs. 14.  Do not enter the path of the wicked, and do not walk in the way of evil.         Vs. 15.  Avoid it, do not travel on it; Turn away from it and pass on.                               Vs. 16.  For they do not sleep unless they have done evil; And their sleep is taken away unless they make someone fall.                                                                              Vs. 17.  For they eat the bread of wickedness, and drink the wine of violence.               Vs. 19.  The way of the wicked is like darkness; They do not know what makes them stumble.

Now turn to Ephesians 4.                                                                                    

Now remember last Wednesday, we expected the challenge as Christian adults that we must model morality and integrity before the next generation so that they may follow.

Now this afternoon, let’s continue to understand for ourselves how important it is in raising up the next generation, to know and to desire morality & integrity for themselves if they are a committed follower of Christ, and if they are dependent upon the Holy Spirit’s help to live at this level!

Now notice Ephesians 4:                                                                                                  Vs. 25.  Therefore, putting away lying, let each one of you speak truth with his neighbor, for we are members of one another.                                                             Vs. 26.  Be angry, and do not sin: do not let the sun go down on your wrath,                    Vs. 27.  nor give place to the devil.                                                                               Vs. 31.  Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice.                                                                                                        Vs. 32.  Instead, be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, just as God in Christ forgave you.                                                                                             Vs. 28.  Let him who stole steal no longer, but rather let him labor, working with his hands what is good, that he may have something to give him who has need. Vs. 29.  Let no corrupt words proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart Grace to the hearers.

Turn to Proverbs 6.

Now again, in raising up the next generation it is important for you and I to influence them to know and to desire morality and integrity for themselves, if they are a committed follower of Christ, and if they are dependent upon the Holy Spirit’s help to live at this level!

Now notice Proverbs 6:                                                                                                 Vs. 16. These six things the Lord hates, yes, seven are an abomination to Him:          Vs. 17.  A proud look, a lying tongue, hands that shed innocent blood,                           Vs. 18.  A heart that devises wicked plans, feet that are swift in running to evil,             Vs. 19.  A false witness who speaks lies, and one who sows discord among brethren.  Vs. 20.  My son, keep your father's command, and do not forsake the law of your mother.

Turn to Proverbs 5.

Once again, in raising up the next generation it is important for you and I to influence them to know and to desire morality and integrity for themselves, if they are a committed follower of Christ, and if they are dependent upon the Holy Spirit’s help to live at this level!

Now notice Proverbs 5:                                                                                                          Vs. 3.  For the lips of an immoral woman drip honey, and her mouth is smoother than oil;            Vs. 4.  But in the end, she is bitter as wormwood, sharp as a two-edged sword.                Vs. 5.  Her feet go down to death, her steps lay hold of hell.                                             Vs. 6.  Lest you ponder her path of life her ways are unstable; You do not know them.      Vs. 7.  Therefore, hear me now, my children, and do not depart from the words of my mouth.         Vs. 8.  Remove your way far from her, and do not go near the door of her house,

Also, see Proverbs 6:                                                                                                    Vs. 24.  To keep you from the evil woman, From the flattering tongue of a seductress.  Vs. 25.   Do not lust after her beauty in your heart, nor let her allure you with her eyelids.       Vs. 26.   For by means of a *harlot a man is reduced to a crust of bread; And an *adulteress will prey upon his precious life.                                                                      Vs. 27.   Can a man take fire to his bosom, and his clothes not be burned?                 Vs. 28.   Can one walk on hot coals, and his feet not be seared?                                 Vs. 29.   So, is he who goes in to his neighbor's wife; Whoever touches her shall not be innocent. Vs. 32.  Whoever commits adultery with a woman lacks understanding; He who does so destroys his own soul.

Now notice Genesis 39:                                                                                                              Vs. 7.  And it came to pass after these things that his master's wife cast longing eyes on Joseph, and she said, Lie with me.                                                                          Vs. 8.  But he refused and said to his master's wife, Look, my master does not know what is with me in the house, and he has committed all that he has to my hand.         Vs. 9.  There is no one greater in this house than I, nor has he kept back anything from me but you, because you are his wife.  How then can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God?             Vs. 10.  So it was, as she spoke to Joseph day by day, that he did not heed her, to lie with her or to be with her.                                                                                                 Vs. 11.  But it happened about this time, when Joseph went into the house to do his work, and none of the men of the house was inside,                                                     Vs. 12.  that she caught him by his garment, saying, Lie with me. But he left his garment in her hand, and fled and ran outside.

05-29-2019    Part 11 

"How Does The Blessed Man Or Woman Apply The Proverbs To Find Help Within Their Families And Within Their Family Relationships?”

So, let us continue with our First subject in this series from the Book of Proverbs and That Is Knowing And Accepting What The Bible Says Is Our Responsibility In Raising Up The Next Generation Spiritually, Morally, Emotionally, And Socially.” Amen!

So then, this afternoon, let’s begin to see and understand what the Bible says is our responsibility in raising up the next generation, spiritually!

Now notice Proverbs 9: 10.  The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.

Question.  Does anyone know what is the difference between being afraid of God and having a healthy fear of God?                                                                                                                             •Being afraid of God is technically called, Theophobia.                                                                   Theophobia is based upon inaccurate information, or a misunderstanding about God.                       •While having a healthy fear of God, is based upon a deep and personal reverence and respect for God.

Now once again notice Proverbs 9:                                                                                             Vs. 10.  The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.

Listen, when it comes to this topic concerning the fear of the LORD, there is some good news, and there is some bad news.

First, let’s consider the bad news, so that the good news will make sense.

For example, notice Matthew 10: 28.                                                                                                    And do not fear those who kill the body, but cannot kill the soul. But rather fear (Him) who is able to destroy both soul and body in hell.

Note: St. John 5: 22, 27-29.

And Revelation 20: 11-16.

Now concerning the fear of the LORD, there is some good news, and there is some bad news.

Let’s consider the bad news first, so that the good news will make sense.

Now notice Hebrews 10:                                                                                                              Vs. 30.  For we know Him who said, vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.  And again, the Lord will judge His people.                                                                                            Vs. 31.  It is a fearful thing to fall into the hands of the living God.

Now concerning the fear of the LORD, there is some good news, and there is some bad news.

Let’s consider the bad news first, so that the good news will make sense.

Now notice Galatians 6:                                                                                                                Vs. 7.  Do not be deceived, God is not mocked; for whatever a man sows, that he will also reap. Vs. 8.  For he who sows to his flesh will of the flesh reap corruption, but he who sows to the Spirit will of the Spirit reap everlasting life.

Listen, when it comes to the topic of the fear of the LORD, there is some good news also!

Note, if the person you know has not yet come to saving faith in Jesus Christ, and they have not been born again.

When it comes to the topic of the fear of the LORD, there is some good news!

See St. John 3:                                                                                                                               Vs. 16.  For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life.

Also See Romans 5:                                                                                                                              Vs. 8.  But God demonstrates His own love toward us, in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.                                                                                                                                       Vs. 9.  Much more then, having now been justified by His blood, we shall be saved from the wrath through Him.

Note, If the person you know has been born again by the Grace of God, and they are a committed follower of Jesus Christ, when it comes to the topic of the fear of the LORD, there is some good news also for them!

For example, I John 1:                                                                                                                    Vs. 9.  If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.

Also see Proverbs 8: 13.                                                                                                                The fear of the LORD is to hate evil; Pride and arrogance and the evil way and the perverse mouth I hate, saith the Lord!

Now let’s continue and understand what the Bible says is our responsibility in raising up the next generation, spiritually.

See Proverbs 15: 8.                                                                                                                     The sacrifice of the wicked is an abomination to the LORD, but the prayer of the upright is His delight.

Also see Proverbs 15:29.                                                                                                            The LORD is far from the wicked, but He hears the prayer of the righteous.

Remember in Matthew 6: 9-13, is a helpful pattern for developing a prayer life with the Lord.

Matthew 6:                                                                                                                                        Vs. 9.  In this manner, therefore, pray: Our Father in heaven, hallowed be Your name.                Vs. 10.  Your kingdom come. Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven.                              Vs. 11.  Give us this day our daily bread.                                                                                     Vs. 12.  And forgive us our debts, as we forgive our debtors.                                                      Vs. 13.  And do not lead us into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one.  For Yours is the kingdom and the power and the glory forever.  Amen

Now let’s continue understand what the Bible says is our responsibility in raising up the next generation, spiritually!

Notice Proverbs 3:                                                                                                                            Vs. 5.  Trust in the Lord with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding.             Vs. 6.  In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.

Also see II Corinthians 5:                                                                                                            Vs. 7.  For we walk by faith, not by sight!

Now let’s continue understand what the Bible says is our responsibility in raising up the next generation, spiritually!

Now notice Proverbs 3:                                                                                                              Vs. 9.  Honour the Lord with thy substance, and with the first fruits of all thine increase:        Vs. 10.  So shall thy barns be filled with plenty, and thy presses shall burst out with new wine.

Also see II Corinthians 9:                                                                                                             Vs. 7.  Every man according as he purposeth in his heart, so let him give; not grudgingly, or of necessity: for God loveth a cheerful giver.                                                                                      Vs. 8.  And God is able to make all grace abound toward you; that ye, always having all sufficiency in all things, may abound to every good work.

 06-05-2019    Part 12   

"How Does The Blessed Man Or Woman Apply The Proverbs To Find Help Within Their Families And Within Their Family Relationships?”

So, let us continue with our first subject in this series from the Book of Proverbs and that is knowing and accepting what the Bible say is our responsibility in raising up the next generation Spiritually, Morally, Emotionally, and Socially.” Amen!”

And so, then this afternoon let’s begin to see and understand what the Bible says is our responsibility in raising up the next generation, emotionally!                                                     •What are emotions?                                                                                                                  •Can you name some emotions and how they affect you?

So, what does the Bible says is our responsibility in raising up the next generation, emotionally!

First, let’s consider briefly anger, or being to easily to get upset!

Notice Proverbs 14:17a                                                                                                                    A quick-tempered man acts foolishly, and a man of wicked intentions is hated.

See Proverbs 29:22.                                                                                                                       An angry man stirs up strife, and a furious man abounds in transgression.

Now notice Ephesians 4:                                                                                                                  Vs. 26.  Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath:                                Vs. 27.  Neither give place to the devil.                                                                                       Vs. 31.  Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice.                                                                                                                                          Vs. 32.  And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.

Now, what the Bible says is our responsibility in raising up the next generation, emotionally.”

Next, let’s consider briefly Envy and Jealousy.

Notice Proverbs 27: 4.                                                                                                                 Wrath is cruel and anger a torrent, but who is able to stand before envy or jealousy?

Now, see Proverbs 23: 17.                                                                                                             Do not let your heart envy sinners, but be zealous for the fear of the LORD all the day.

Also, see James 3:                                                                                                                             Vs. 14.  But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth.                                                                                                                                                  Vs. 16.  For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work.

Next, let’s consider briefly, Sorrow and Grief.

Now notice Proverbs 14: 13.                                                                                                             Even in laughter the heart may sorrow, and the end of mirth may be grief.

Now, see Psalms 147: 3.                                                                                                                He (God) heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.

Also see Psalms 30: 5.                                                                                                                 For His anger is but for a moment, His favor is for life; Weeping may endure for a night, but joy comes in the morning.

Finally, let’s consider briefly Happiness and Joy.

Now notice Proverbs 16:20

He that handleth a matter wisely shall find good: and whoso trusteth in the Lord, happy is he.

Now see Proverbs 15:13 from The NIV, The New International Version it says,                        “A happy heart makes the face cheerful, but heartache crushes the spirit.”

Also know Proverbs 15:13 From the Amplified Bible it says,                                                     “A heart full of joy and goodness makes a cheerful face, but when a heart is full of sadness the spirit is crushed.”

Now see Nehemiah 8: 10.                                                                                                              Then Ezra said to the people, go your way, eat the fat, drink the sweet, and send portions to those for whom nothing is prepared; for this day is holy to our Lord. (Do not sorrow, for the joy of the LORD is your strength).

And lastly see Romans 15: 13.                                                                                                   Now may the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace in believing, that you may abound in hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.

Also, know Romans 15:13 from The NIV, The New International Version it says,                   “May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit.”

06-12-2019    Part 13   

"How Does The Blessed Man Or Woman Apply The Proverbs To Find Help Within Their Families And Within Their Family Relationships?”

So, let us finish up with our first subject in this series from the Book of Proverbs and That Is Knowing And Accepting What The Bible Says Is Our Responsibility In Raising Up The Next Generation Spiritually, Morally, Emotionally, And Socially.” Amen!

And so then, this afternoon lets understand what the Bible says is our responsibility in raising up the next generation, socially.

And there are three areas we want to consider briefly in raising up the next generation socially.

First, understanding the importance of proper social manners or Etiquette.

Next, Friendships.

Lastly, Respect For Authority.

When it comes to raising up the next generation socially, lets first understanding the Importance of proper social manners or Etiquette.

Because the words we say with our mouths, either a simple thank you, or a heartfelt apology really matters.

See Proverbs 21:23.                                                                                                          Whoever guards his mouth and tongue keeps his soul from troubles.

See Colossians 4:6.                                                                                                       Let your speech always be with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how you ought to answer each one.

See Philippians 2: 14&15.                                                                                                  Do all things without complaining and disputing, that you may become blameless and harmless, children of God without fault in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world.

I Thessalonians 5:18.                                                                                                      in everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.

Now, when it comes to raising up the next generation socially, let’s consider the area of friendships.

See Proverbs 17:17.                                                                                                           A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.

See Proverbs 27: 5&6, 17.                                                                                                Vs. 5.  Open rebuke is better than love carefully concealed.                                            Vs. 6.  Faithful are the wounds of a friend, but the kisses of an enemy are deceitful.      Vs. 17.  As iron sharpens iron, so a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.

See Proverbs 18:24.                                                                                                        A man who has friends must himself be friendly, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

See Proverbs 13:20.                                                                                                      He who walks with wise men will be wise, but the companion of fools will be destroyed.

I Corinthians 15: 33&34.                                                                                                Vs. 33.  Do not be deceived: Evil company corrupts good habits.                                   Vs. 34.  Awake to righteousness, and do not sin; for some do not have the knowledge of God. I speak this to your shame.

Now, there are three areas we are considering in raising up the next generation socially. This finally area we want to consider briefly in raising up the next generation socially is for them to have a respect for authority.

God first, their parents, grandparents or guardian.  And even for those that are in authority, Federal, State, and Local.

See Proverbs 9: 10&11.                                                                                                The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.                                                                                                              For by Me your days will be multiplied, and years of life will be added to you.

See Proverbs 24: 21&22.                                                                                                My son, fear the LORD and the king; Do not associate with those given to change; For their calamity will rise suddenly, and who knows the ruin those two can bring?

See Proverbs 23:22.                                                                                                           Listen to your father who begot you, and do not despise your mother when she is old.

See Ephesians 6:1-3.                                                                                                        Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.

Honor your father and mother, which is the first commandment with promise: that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.

See Leviticus 19:32.                                                                                                            You shall rise before the gray headed and honor the presence of an old man, and fear your God: I am the LORD.

See Hebrews 13:7.                                                                        Remember those who rule over you, who have spoken the word of God to you, whose faith follow, considering the outcome of their conduct.

And Hebrews 13:17.                                                                                                  Obey those who rule over you, and be submissive, for they watch out for your souls, as those who must give account. Let them do so with joy and not with grief, for that would be unprofitable for you.

See I Peter 2: 13-17.                                                                                                      Therefore, submit yourselves to every ordinance of man for the Lord’s sake, whether to the king as supreme, or to governors, as to those who are sent by him for the punishment of evildoers and for the praise of those who do good. For this is the will of God, that by doing good you may put to silence the ignorance of foolish men as free, yet not using liberty as a cloak for vice, but as bondservants of God. Honor all people. Love the brotherhood.  Fear God.  Honor the king.

See Proverbs 8: 15&16.                                                                                                 By me kings reign, and rulers decree justice. By me Princes rule, and nobles, all the judges of the earth.

See Proverbs 21:1.                                                                                                             The king’s heart is in the hand of the LORD, like the rivers of water; He turns it wherever He wishes.

See Romans 13:1.                                                                                                         Let every soul be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and the authorities that exist are appointed by God.

See Proverbs 29:2.                                                                                                            When the righteous are in authority, the people rejoice; But when a wicked man rules, the people groan.

See I Timothy 2: 1-6.                                                                                                      Therefore, I exhort first of all that supplications, prayers, intercessions, and giving of thanks be made for all men, for kings and all who are in authority, that we may lead a quiet and peaceable life in all godliness and reverence. For this is good and acceptable in the sight of God our Savior, who desires all men to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth. For there is one God and one Mediator between God and men, the Man Christ Jesus, who gave Himself a ransom for all, to be testified in due time.

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We Want To Be Responsible In Helping Them To Thrive Within Our Homes, And Outside Our Homes.                                                                                                                                 

06-19-2019   Part 1 

"How Does The Blessed Man Or Woman Apply The Proverbs To Find Help Within Their Families And Within Their Family Relationships?”

As most of you know, last Wednesday we finished up our first subject in this series from the Book of Proverbs that challenged us to know and accept what the Bible says is our responsibility as adults, in raising up the next generation spiritually, morally, emotionally, and Socially.”

However, we not only want to raise up the next generation in these various ways, But We Want To Be Responsible In Helping Them To Thrive Within Our Homes, And Outside Our Homes!                                                                                                                                       Note: a report on the multiple benefits of marriage, including the advantages for children especially.

“From a diverse team who worked collectively on this report including family scholars, from U.C. Berkeley, Rutgers University and the Universities of Texas, Virginia, Minnesota, Chicago, Maryland and Washington.

They found that children who lived with their own married parents in general: that child or children lived longer, less stress on their bodies, and no desire for suicide.                     The child or the children were healthier physically, emotionally, and psychologically.      The child or the children did better in school. Were more likely to graduate from high school and attend college.                                                                                                    The child or the children are less likely to live in poverty.    The child or the children are less likely to be in trouble with The Law.                             The child or the children are less likely to abuse alcoholic beverages or abuse drugs.       The child or the children are less likely to be violent or sexually active as preteens, teens, and as young adults before marriage.                                                                                 The child or the children are less likely to be victims of sexual or physical assaults.       The child or the children are more likely to have a successful marriage when they are ready to marry.”

And therefore, there is a second area that we need to know and accept what the Bible say is our responsibility as adults, in raising up the next generation spiritually, morally, emotionally, and socially.”

So, then our second subject in this series from the Book of Proverbs is, that we need to know and accept what the Bible says is our responsibility as adults, is choose wisely and Biblically that person you want to marry.

And also know and accept, what the Bible says is our responsibility as adults in cultivating a healthy marriage for our sakes, and for the next generation.

Now I know what some of you might be thinking this topic we are about to share should be for those individuals who are dating, or who are engaged to be married.

And you might be tempted to think that at this stage in your life, that this subject is unnecessary for you.   Or, you may say I’m really not that interested in this type of topic because of the way my life has turned out.

But I would like to plead with you, and I would ask you to please reconsider your position.            Because as a committed follower of Jesus Christ, one who is in-dwelt by the Holy Spirit, one who is a doer of the Word, and not a hearer only.

Surely, the LORD could use you at this time in your life, to pray for, to listen too, to encourage, to give guidance and support based on the things we are about to learn together from this most important topic.

Now, notice Proverbs 18: 22.  He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the LORD.

Now, notice Proverbs 31:10. Who can find a virtuous wife?  For her worth is far above rubies.

So, what do we need to know and accept from the Bible, so that as a responsible adult that person might choose wisely and Biblically that person they want to marry.                But also, so that this person might know and accept, what the Bible says is their responsibility as adults in cultivating a healthy marriage for our sakes, and for the next generation.

Now, notice again Proverbs 18: 22. He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the LORD.

Now, notice Proverbs 31:10. Who can find a virtuous wife? For her worth is far above rubies.

Two important questions we need to ask and answer.                                           •First, how do you find someone to marry?                •Secondly, what do you do when you find a person that you want to marry?

First, how do you find someone to marry?                         Please remember two basic principles from Abraham search for a wife for his son Isaac.   1. By prayer invite your Heavenly Father to be involved in this process with you and for you.   2. Invite your earthly family, parents especially to be involved in this process with you and for you.

Next, work on getting yourself ready to be relationally healthy and relationally responsible. Next, if there is a need for forgiveness concerning a past relationship in which you were hurt or taken advantage of, ask for God’s help so that you can moving on.          Next, learning how to operate biblically and spiritually instead of fleshly and worldly.        Next, be willing to walk away, break it off, or break it up, when dealing with an unhealthy person or an unhealthy relationship that has been revealed to you by the LORD.

06-26-2019   Part 2   

"How Does The Blessed Man Or Woman Apply The Proverbs To Find Help Within Their Families And Within Their Family Relationships?”

Now our second subject in this series from the Book of Proverbs is that we need to know and accept what the Bible says is our responsibility as adults, in choosing wisely and Biblically that person you want to marry.

And also knowing and accepting, what the Bible says is our responsibility as adults in cultivating a healthy marriage for our sakes, and for the next generation.

Now notice Proverbs 18: 22. He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the LORD.

Now notice Proverbs 31:10.  Who can find a virtuous wife?  For her worth is far above rubies.

So, there are two important questions we need to ask and answer.

First, how do you find someone to marry.

Note: We again did a review concerning this area, for each statement below.

I would highly recommend looking up these matters for yourself, using the Bible and a dictionary, so you have clarity about each issue mention.

For example, please remember two basic principles about Abraham’s search for a wife for his son Isaac in Genesis 24.

First basic principle, just as Isaac depended on his earthly father Abraham to find the right person for him to marry, so likewise through daily prayer invite your Heavenly Father to be with you and for you in this process of finding the right person to marry.

Second basic principle, just as Isaac invited his father Abraham to be involved with him and for him in finding someone to marry.  So likewise, invite your family, especially your parents or parent, a relative, or a guardian or a mentor to be involved with you and for you in this process of finding someone to marry.

Now also, there are five things that one should consider when finding someone to marry?

First, work on getting yourself ready to be relationally healthy and relationally responsible.

Second, asking God’s help in forgiving and moving on.

Thirdly, learning how to operate biblically and spiritually instead of fleshly and worldly.

Fourthly, be willing to walk away, break it off, or break it up, when dealing with an unhealthy person or an unhealthy relationship that has been revealed to you by the LORD.

Fifthly, if necessary, seek out Professional Christian counseling or therapy along with pastoral counseling for the following, •Addictions.                                                                          •Personality disorders.                                                                                                        •Psychological disorders.                                                                                    •Mental illness.                                                                                                             •Spiritual disorders or dysfunction.                                                        •Financial irresponsibility.

07-03-2019   Part 3

"How Does The Blessed Man Or Woman Apply The Proverbs To Find Help Within Their Families And Within Their Family Relationships?”

Now our second subject in this series from the Book of Proverbs is that, *We Need To Know And Accept What The Bible Says Is Our Responsibility As Adults, In Choosing Wisely And Biblically That Person You Want To Marry.

*But also, we need to know and accept what the Bible says is our responsibility if you are already married, to cultivating a healthy marriage for your sake, and for the sake of the next generation that is watching you!

Now notice Proverbs 18: 22.                                                                                                He who ‘finds’ a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the LORD.

Now turn to Proverbs 31.

Now notice Proverbs 31:10.  Who can ‘find’ a virtuous wife?  For her worth is far above rubies.

So, there are two important questions we need to ask and answer. 

And our second question is, what do you do when you find a person that you want to marry?

Don’t be in a hurry, take your time in this new relationship that you are enjoying by avoiding or abstaining from one or more, or a combination of these culturally and socially acceptable practices.                                                                                 •Sexual intimacy with the other person before marriage.                           •Starting a family with the other person before marriage.                                              •An abnormal emotional dependency for the other person.                                      •Financial supporting & assisting the other person.                                                        •Cohabitation with the other person before marriage.                                                

Question, but why these particular areas just mention?

And why should a person definitely take their time and avoid or abstain from these culturally and socially acceptable practices?

Second question, what happens when you and the other person moves to fast in these culturally and socially acceptable practices?

And what will be some of the consequences, problems, and dysfunction that will occur sooner or later?

So, we spent the rest of the Bible study time having open discussion about these four questions.

Also, because it was the first Wednesday of the month we share the Lord’s Table together, Holy Communion as well.

07-10-2019  Part 4

"How Does The Blessed Man Or Woman Apply The Proverbs To Find Help Within Their Families And Within Their Family Relationships?”

Now our second subject in this series from the Book of Proverbs is that, We Need To Know And Accept What The Bible Says Is Our Responsibility As Adults, In Choosing Wisely And Biblically That Person You Want To Marry.

But also, we need to know and accept what the Bible says is our responsibility if you are already married, to cultivating a healthy marriage for your sake, and for the sake of the next generation that is watching you!

Now, notice Proverbs 31:10.  Who can find a virtuous wife?  For her worth is far above rubies.

So, there are two important questions we need to ask and answer.

And our second question is, what do you do when you find a person that you want to marry?

Most likely you are drawn to the outward appearance of the person.  Therefore, asked God over the process of time to show you the person’s heart, so that you will not be self-deceived.

Remember, you are in a vetting process.  Note: The word vetting can mean, to appraise, or to verify, or to check for accuracy, or authenticity.

Remember, you are in a vetting process to determine if this person is or is not, the right one.

Therefore, you must have a Biblical criteria to help you in your vetting process to help you to know if the person you have found has both spiritual and external qualities such as character.

For example, in Proverbs 31: 10-31.  And also, I Timothy 3: 1-10&12.

First, notice Proverbs 31: 10-31.  As a biblical criteria, to help you as a male in your vetting process to know if the person you have found has according to Proverbs 31: 10-31, these three major categories traits.

The three major categories traits.                                                                                   •Godly character traits.                                                                                                        •An industrious or entrepreneur like traits.                                                     •Compassionate and caring traits.

First, Godly character traits.                                                                                                Vs. 10.  Who can find a virtuous wife?  For her worth is far above rubies.                       Vs. 11.  The heart of her husband, boyfriend or fiancé, does safely trusts her; So, he will have no lack of gain.                                                                                                      Vs. 12.  She does him good, and not evil all the days of her life.                                        Vs. 28.  Her children or nieces or nephews, rise up and call her blessed; Her husband boyfriend or fiancé also praises her:                                                                              Vs. 29.  Saying, many daughters have done well, but you excel them all.                          Vs. 25.  Strength and honor are her clothing she shall rejoice in time to come.            Vs. 27.  She watches over the ways of her household, and does not eat the bread of idleness.                                                                                                                            Vs. 30.  Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the Lord, she shall be praised.                                                                                           

The next major category trait, an Industrious or entrepreneur like traits.                        Vs. 13.  She seeks wool and flax, and willingly works with her hands.                         Vs. 14.  She is like the merchant ships, she brings her food from afar.                            Vs. 16.  She considers a field and buys it; From her profits she plants a vineyard.      Vs. 18.  She perceives that her merchandise is good, and her lamp does not go out by night.                                                                                                                                       Vs. 19.  She stretches out her hands to the distaff, and her hand holds the spindle.        Vs. 22.  She makes tapestry for herself; Her clothing is fine linen and purple.                   Vs. 24.  She makes linen garments and sells them, and supplies sashes for the merchants.                                                                                                                            

The last major category trait is, being compassionate and caring.                                 Vs. 15.  She also rises while it is yet night, and provides food for her household, and a portion for her maidservants.                                                                                             Vs. 20.  She extends her hand to the poor, yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.                                                                                                                                     Vs. 21.  She is not afraid of snow for her household, for all her household is clothed with scarlet.                                                                                                                    Vs. 26.  She opens her mouth with wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness.

Note: Also, in the Book of Proverbs there are other helpful verses to help you as a male in your vetting process to Know if the person you have found is the right one or not!

See Proverbs 12: 4.                                                                                                            A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones.

See Proverbs 11: 22.                                                                                               Beauty in a woman without good judgment is like a gold ring in a pig's snout.

See Proverbs 21: 9.                                                                                                             It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop than to share a house with a quarrelsome woman.

See Proverbs 25: 24.                                                                                                        It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop than to share a house with a contentious woman.

See Proverbs 21: 19.                                                                                                         It is better to dwell in the wilderness than with a quarrelsome and angry woman.

See Proverbs 27: 15.                                                                                                       A never-ending dripping on a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike.

07-17-2019     Part 4

"How Does The Blessed Man Or Woman Apply The Proverbs To Find Help Within Their Families And Within Their Family Relationships?”

Now our second subject in this series from the Book of Proverbs is that, We Need To Know And Accept What The Bible Says Is Our Responsibility As Adults, In Choosing Wisely And Biblically That Person You Want To Marry.

But also, we need to know and accept what the Bible says is our responsibility if you are already married, to cultivating a healthy marriage for your sake, and for the sake of the next generation that is watching you!

Now notice Proverbs 18: 22.                                                                                             He who finds a wife finds a good thing, and obtains favor from the LORD.

Now again, most likely you are drawn to the outward appearance of the person.

Therefore, asked God over the process of time to show you their heart, so that you will not be self-deceived.

Remember, you are in a vetting process to determine if this person is or is not, the right one.

Therefore, you must have a Biblical-criteria to help you in your vetting process to help you to know if the person you have found has both spiritual and external qualities such as character.

Now notice I Timothy 3: 1-10&12, as a Biblical-criteria to help you as a female in your vetting process to know if the person you have found has both spiritual and external qualities, such as character.

Note: Even though I Timothy 3: 1-10&12, is talking about the Biblical qualifications when considering a man, a male to be a local church bishop/elder, or a local church deacon.

There are some very important character traits and spiritual maturity standards that a person must already possess, and is evident in their lives for them to be considered in a leadership role.

So, I believe personally, a female may use this section as a Biblical-criteria to help her in the vetting process to know if the person she has found has both spiritual and external qualities such as character.

 Show you what I mean!

I Timothy 3:                                                                                                                          Vs. 1. This is a faithful saying: If a man desires the position of a bishop, he desires a good work.                                                                                                                        Vs. 2.  A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife or, a monogamous, faithful, non-misogynist person, temperate or, self-control, sober-minded, of good behavior, hospitable, able to teach;                                                                                       Vs. 3.  not given to wine, not violent, not greedy for money, but gentle, not quarrelsome, not covetous;                                                                                                  Vs. 4.  One who rules his own house well, having his children in submission with all reverence.                                                                                                                         Vs. 5.  for if a man does not know how to rule his own house, how will he take care of the church of God;                                                                                                               Vs. 7.  Moreover, he must have a good testimony among those who are outside, lest he fall into reproach and the snare of the devil.                                                                          Vs. 8.  Likewise, Deacons must be reverent, not double-tongued, not given to much wine, not greedy for money,                                                                                                   Vs. 9.  holding the mystery of the faith with a pure conscience.                                           Vs. 10.  But let these also first be tested; then let them serve as Deacons, being found blameless.                                                                                                                         Vs. 12.  Let Deacons be the husbands of one wife, ruling their children and their own houses well.                                                                                                                    

Turn to Proverbs 15.                                                                                                       Now again, we need to know and accept what the Bible says is our responsibility as adults, in choosing wisely and Biblically that person you want to marry.

Accept the necessity for premarital counseling.

Listen, now that you have done your part, allow Godly counselors to test, to challenge, to question, or to affirm, or to warn you concerning this person, and this choice that you are making.

•KJV-Proverbs 15:22.                                                                                                         Without counsel purposes are disappointed: but in the multitude of counsellors they are established.

NKJV-Proverbs 15:22.                                                                                                       Without counsel, plans go awry, but in the multitude of counselors they are established.

•KJV-Proverbs 11:14.                                                                                                     Where no counsel is, the people fall: but in the multitude of counsellors there is safety.

NKJV-Proverbs 11:14.                                                                                                         Where there is no counsel, the people fall; But in the multitude of counselors there is safety.

•From a Godly, Spirit-filled, mature, local church leader, or a professional Christian Counselor.                                                                                                                           A Bishop, a Pastor, an Associate Pastor, an Elder, a Deacon, or a Deaconess.             A Godly, Spirit-filled, mature, licensed Marital Counselor.                                                   A Godly, Spirit-filled, mature, licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, MFT.

Next, from a Godly, Spirit-filled, mature family member, or a mentor, or a close and dear friend.                                                                                                                            *A parent or both parents.                                                                                                   *An adoptive parent or parent.                                                                                         *A stepparent or stepparents.                                                                                                 *A grandparent, or both grandparents.                                                                                    *An older brother or sister.                                                                                                   *A guardian or foster parent.                                                                                              *An uncle or an aunt.                                                                                                             *An older adult cousin.                                                                                                         *A mentor or a close and dear friend.

 

 

 

 

 

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